Guidelines For Corresponding

1. Keep in mind, as you write to prisoners, that many of them feel suspicious, resentful, and lonely.

Inmates feel lonely because they are alienated from society, friends, and family. Many have been rejected by the latter. A week without a letter can seem like a year, so write often and respond promptly. One prisoner is reported to have called mail "paper sunshine."

2. Try to be understanding. Remember, they live in a very hostile and unloving environment.

3. If possible, it is best not to use your home address when answering letters. Use a post office box. This will avoid possible future problems - for example, a just released inmate showing up unexpectedly on your door step.

4. Don't make promises you can't keep. They have enough disappointments in their life.

5. Do not share anything about yourself that can be used against you later.

6. Do not let your relationship be contingent on you sending them money or gifts.

7. Do not give inmates your phone number unless you are prepared to pay some huge phone bills.

8. Don't ask the person why he/she is in prison. If they bring it up it's ok to discuss it. Don't judge.

9. Don't criticize prison staff or prison rules, other races, countries, or religions.

10. Don't ask questions that are too personal. Let them share what they want in their own time.

11. Use common sense.

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